Starting sex is sooo pre-#MeToo movement. Welcoming you to definitely have intercourse is more hip (read: consensual and gender-inclusive).
Below, intercourse educator and activist August McLaughlin, writer of “Girl Boner” and “Girl Boner Journal, ” and Dr. Chris Donaghue, intercourse and closeness expert at SKYN Condoms, explain the misogynistic undertones for the former, and just how an invite to intercourse is a consensual and approach that is pleasure-based getting hired on.
Plus, just how to “send” that invitation at every stage in a relationship.
Acknowledge it: The expression “initiate sex” paints a graphic regarding the sex-starved spouse pawing at their less-than-libidinous partner — aka it is archaic AF.
It’s outdated and problematic to assume that cis dudes are responsible for starting sex, states Donaghue.